Posted: September 18, 2015
When I first met them, I couldn't take my eyes off of them, because it was clear that they were so in love. Ed and Agatha (not their real names) were in their early sixties. Ed is a relative (through marriage) of a relative of...
Posted: August 28, 2015
The single biggest guarantee of counseling success? Client commitment to the therapeutic process. If you have a mediocre counselor--but a heroic commitment to counseling--you can still achieve heroic growth. However, if you have a heroic counselor--but a mediocre commitment to the therapeutic process--your progress will...
Posted: August 14, 2015
Defense. In football--it wins championships. In life, it can erode relationships. There is something so basic to our existence that says, "I am being attacked; I must defend." In fact, in many cultures and even religions, "defending oneself" is deemed an acceptable reason or excuse...
Posted: July 10, 2015
I must have it my way. I wish I had it my way. Just making that change in our self-talk can make all the difference between healthy and unhealthy decisions. That first phrase, of course, is a demand, and demandingness is reflective of words such...
Posted: June 19, 2015
"You're not following through, Mike," my poor friend calmly recited for the umpteenth time. "Golf is a game of follow through. You're stopping the club when you hit the ball." "You've got no follow through on that jumper, Mike," my angry basketball coach shouted. "Follow...
Posted: June 12, 2015
Once upon a time, a squirrel was wandering about through some woods when she heard cries for help. She followed the sounds to a deep hole among the trees. At the bottom of the hole, a snake looked up and said, "Oh, thank goodness you're...