Posted: October 29, 2015
This week, our own Ashley Cygnarowicz submitted the post. Thanks, Ashley! It would be dishonest if I (or any therapist) said “I never get stressed out or feel like I have too much on my plate.” Yes—we are human, not therapy-bots. I can recall recently...
Posted: September 18, 2015
When I first met them, I couldn't take my eyes off of them, because it was clear that they were so in love. Ed and Agatha (not their real names) were in their early sixties. Ed is a relative (through marriage) of a relative of...
Posted: September 11, 2015
In our previous post, we talked about what clients can do to contribute to counseling success. So, what about the counselor? In my experience, a counselor should have a healthy balance of likeability and effectiveness . If you don't like her, you're probably not going...
Posted: August 28, 2015
The single biggest guarantee of counseling success? Client commitment to the therapeutic process. If you have a mediocre counselor--but a heroic commitment to counseling--you can still achieve heroic growth. However, if you have a heroic counselor--but a mediocre commitment to the therapeutic process--your progress will...
Posted: August 14, 2015
Defense. In football--it wins championships. In life, it can erode relationships. There is something so basic to our existence that says, "I am being attacked; I must defend." In fact, in many cultures and even religions, "defending oneself" is deemed an acceptable reason or excuse...